Welcome to "A Blog About Sex"
Welcome to "A Blog About Sex" - which is exactly what it sounds like...a blog about sex.
I want to keep this little introduction short and sweet: this is going to be a place where I talk about all things sex, from a submissive point of view. Most of the time, topics discussed here will be about BDSM. BDSM, in case you're unfamiliar, stands for bondage/discipline, dominance/submission, sadism/masochism.
Within the BDSM world, there are 3 "major personalities", and although things are very rarely that simple (as people are complex and sexuality is a spectrum), the main three are...
Dominant - a person who enjoys taking on the dominant, caretaker, owner, top role in a D/s relationship.
Submissive - a person who enjoys taking on the submissive, serving, bottom role in a D/s relationship.
Switch - a person who is able to switch between dominant and submissive depending on various things (such as the partner they are with, the mood they are in or even the scene they are participating in).
If you're unsure about where you land and want to figure out more about who you are as a sexual being, I highly suggest reading this article I wrote for Sofia Gray that outlines the different BDSM roles and can help you in your journey to understanding who you are and what you want.
Who am I?
I identify as a (sometimes bratty) submissive, but I have switch tendencies. This means my most natural state in a D/s relationship is as a submissive, but I can see myself becoming a dominant personality in certain situations. I am currently in a long-term, monogamous relationship, where I operate mainly as a submissive and only explore this part of myself during sex. While some people prefer to be submissive in the relationship as a whole, that's not me.
Who I am can be summed up in one tweet, actually...
If you're interested in learning more about BDSM, I am a sex writer over on Sofia Gray and write about this kind of thing multiple times a week! This blog, however, will be more of my personal musings about submissive life and the BDSM culture/community.
I hope, together, we can grow and learn new things about ourselves and each other, and take a few more steps towards a more sex-positive society where these things are more commonly discussed among partners and friends.